taking advantage of generosity

is actually the same thing as abusing it.

True story:

There was a friend I knew from highschool and we kept in touch for just a couple years after university. I knew she finished Teachers College and had difficulty finding a job. She wasn't renting, but living at her folks place, but even then I knew she had some difficulty with other expenses.

We went out for Bubble tea one day and chatted for quite some time. She was also having issues with her personal life, so I thought it would help to get her out and let her vent. 

We were about to leave and the bill came. I told her - "don't worry D, this is on me"

She was not expecting it, however, she sat back down and said, while the waiter was standing in front of us with the bill in his hands, "OH..... well in that case, I will order another Bubble tea...." 

What.

(I am not sure about you, but only those of you who noticed what I just noticed, are my kind of people.)

So we sat back down, I took my coat off and we continued to chat about her venting issues.....

Maybe it is that some people are so engulfed in their issues it somehow becomes selfish. I guess they can be excused to a certain extent because life is just that much harder than yours, but at a certain point, they simply are just selfish. And selfish people actually take from others to fill their own lack instead of working on it themselves to help themselves. And they almost always fail to notice the generosity of others or fail to simply notice any courtesy to others around them. 

Saying all this, I would not call myself a bitch or selfish or heartless or careless toward her problems. But the saying - when you give an inch they take a mile or something like that.... is what I feel in this case.