Choose Peace over power.

https://www.wikihow.com/Live-in-Peace



Just putting this here.
(the part about forced coercion and resentment is very interesting)

(***disclosure, I am talking about differences in views, not when active violence is happening in the moment)

Gez louise.

A few times this week in my observations of others I felt...."Whooa, hold up! What are you doing?! Why would you do that?"

It seems like its a volatile time around me with me seeing people passionately disagree with in-laws , coworkers, friends, companions,  family and even strangers.

Conversation and communication is good. No communication can lead to chaos. But its not always easy. Not even easy to express your own opinions clearly let alone listen to other peoples opinions sometimes.

What I notice is that most of the time people choose power over peace.

They feel there is a wrong, and will aim to fix it, no matter the fatalities along the way.

As much as you want to correct it right this instant, and just right the wrong now or throw the baby out with the bath water, as much as you want to correct a wrong, is how much sometimes strongly the other is convinced that you are the wrong that needs correcting.

Even how detrimental the views are and the consequences - when it comes down to that moment - its an opinion. Just an opinion *** (see disclosure) . Not to belittle it or invalidate it. Everyone has their own experiences to back up this opinion they hold so dear.
But its just that. And because we all are different, we are bound to have different opinions.
But if the whole exchange begins to brew resentment, anger, hurt, bitterness, violence and forever damaged relationships.... why? Why try to convince or force the other to accept yours? If they are not forcing you to change how to live your life, how you think, how you treat others in the end, right in front of you, why not choose peace? Why stir it up forcefully and damage the peace and relationship, instead of just having them see things for themselves, learn for themselves, be open to listening which is a two way street....

If they post something on FB that bothers you and you assume the worst in that person. Why say anything when you know their minds will not change if you say something? Even just delete or block it out. If the way they live their life in their home does not affect how you live your life at home, why force your opinion in their home?

Less vaguely for example, I do not agree I need to cover up my head as a woman or my face to be looked at as a respectable woman. But if I go into their home/ country and this is their form of respect in their country, I will do it. Because that is their home.
It is a minor inconvenience to me when I go there, but in the bigger picture, it keeps the peace and they appreciate it. They are not telling me what to do in my own home or how to live my life.
In the end, it shows them you value their relationship over forcing your differing opinions/values.