make it grow!

When I was living with my folks, my mom had about 100 orchids she looked after. She is pretty good with plants and seems to have a green thumb. Not like myself.
We had a basement that had a large shelf with grow lights, an upstairs bathroom with a skylight and a sun room off the kitchen filled with all of them.
She was very attentive and had a watering schedule and was checking for those weird white fuzzy bugs that they would sometimes get.

I remember sitting in the kitchen for breakfast as my mom would come downstairs, pass me at the kitchen table, go straight to her plants and greet them "oh good morning my babies!"

I'd sit there half jokingly "oh hellooooo , good morning to you too mom!?"

"oh yea hi, good morning."

har har.

Well like plants, people need attention to grow, relationships that you care about need attention to grow.

Mind you yea, there are times where she couldnt care for them when she was on vacation, so I tried my best to keep them alive while she was gone.
It IS work, and good thing she loved orchids. You can't just buy them have them bloom then throw them away. They are not dead. They are still alive. Just because the flowers fall away does not mean there will not be any that grow back ... though I hear with orchids its very hard. So you don't have to kill something that's still alive and doesn't have the pretty flowers... unless you are superficial like that... or just buy cut flowers for a vase instead.

So yes eventually, those that did not get the attention and care just simply died.

During this time of quarantine, when we cannot get to our regular routines and meetings and gatherings and we have to social distance, I find a few observations.... some of us are working out and getting in shape more than before because we have the time, others, are cooking and eating more or maybe the same as they did but not as much exercise so they are gaining weight. Some are eager to connect through different means and in some ways are getting closer than before, and others are the opposite. Some are finding time for the hobbies they did not have time for before and are becoming their own experts at it. Others are finding time to get things in order that they did not have time for before. Anyways, whatever we care about we put our attention to, and whatever we put our attention to will grow, and whatever we dont will not.