What if, what you thought about someone was exactly how they thought about you?
Recently I needed a certain imaging test, requested by my doc for follow up. I've been going to this particular hospital for imaging because it is not overly crowded and the staff (except one older lady) have always been pretty patient and kind during my appointments, no matter how many people are waiting on them.
I remember this one Ultrasound Tech that I recognized who went to my school about 20 yrs ago. In the evenings, after school I would work at the front desk of my school so I recognized many of the faces of staff and students. Now, during one appointment I had at this hospital, we somehow acknowledged that we went to the same school because we recognized each others faces. I never really hung out with her in school, nor were we friends or acquaintances. After the recognition we had some small talk about how life is going so far, where I am working, and if we have families of our own. Then she said something that took me by surprise: "I remember your face because I remember thinking that you are so pretty."
haha... no, no she was not hitting on me. But she said it in some a matter of fact honest way. I said something like Ha, Oh really? I didn't think so but Thanks....
What was so surprising to me, is that I actually thought the same thing of her back then! I am not sure if I told her the same thing, which would make the situation a bit more awkward but I left thinking that it was such a compliment, especially when it comes from someone you are thinking the same thing about them as well!
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I had this Scottish senior lady that had her appointments booked with me at work every 6-8 wks. And she was such a joy to have come in. Quick witted, fast talking and active and just real and honest. When she talked about what was going on with her she would always make a joke of things somehow. Even if she talked about things that bothered her she would make jokes about it. And these things would often be things that bothered me too so we had a fun conversation agreeing with each other and having a laugh over it. Ever since she made some joke about her corn being similar to having a baby, it would just always be laughs when she came for her appointment. One day as I was seeing her out the clinic door she mentioned to me "Oh I always enjoy coming here and talking to you, it is such a joy! I always leave feeling great and I look forward to seeing you!" I said without hesitation "And I enjoy whenever you come in to see me too, I feel the same way! So fun having a chat with you every time you are in!"
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These instances and similar ones here and there make me wonder, what if , whatever you think about someone, they think exactly the same way about you? It's a wonderful feeling to have a unified connection with someone, especially if it is positive, no matter how minor it is. But imagine if the same goes for when you think a person is just ... shitty. Imagine they think the same about you. Easy to judge others and separate yourself from them by believing you are better. But this thought that crossed my mind makes me think twice about quick judgements and assumptions about others and at least makes me pause for a second to give someone the benefit of the doubt. And if I want people to think nicely of me, then it would help at least to try to think nicely of them.
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