Loss

Weird how FB connects people even though in a distant way.
I found out that an old friend of mine's mom passed away recently.
He was pretty close to his mom. Both him and his sister.
Actually they all were pretty close.

I cannot imagine the loss of a parent.
I love my folks and cannot imagine this world without them.
Yet even then, I do not think I am even as close as he was to his mom.

I'm reflecting back and I think that is something I may not have always understood (the closeness he had) but it is something I did admire.
The respect and love he had for her as well says a lot about a person.
I think for the most part his mom raised them both and I did not hear much about his dad.

Though I have never met her, I think we both knew of each other, that is how close he was to his mom.
She seemed to be loved by many as well.
The affect she had on others seemed great.

The older I get I have been wondering ..... what is the purpose of the grind?
And whoooop 10 yrs has gone by...... what have I done?
More and more I am realizing it comes down to the affect you had on those around you.
That is what is left behind, that is your mark in this world.
Not what you gained, nothing materialistic, not the places you have traveled, not the career you chose, not the car you drive, not the awards you have won, not the arguments you have won, not the proving that you are right and others are wrong.....

Its the affect you have on other peoples lives.