noy'ing

I've maybe said this before, but the "people you may know" feature of FB annoys the crappolla out of me!!!

How much more INTRUSIVE can you get?

As if we all don't have enough "friends" on our facebooks.

We all did it in the beginning already - adding all these people from our past or people that we have not seen for over two decades and never had any contact since, or heck maybe hardly even talked to them at all in highschool anyways. We added them just cause we knew them or of them, not because we were really friend-friends. At one point it just became all about the quantity of friends you had vs the actual connections you made personally with these "friends".

We did that already FB, we deleted some and kept some, I'm pretty fine with it already, why must you suggest more?

And even if I may know that person, why should I "friend" every single encounter I've ever had in my lifetime?

I get it, when it comes to family or extended family or close friends or really cool people I want to keep in touch with and such. In that case I can find them myself and friend them or they give me their info and thats how we connect.

But...

The HVAC guy from two years ago when I had an issue with the AC in my condo.
The cupcake maker I ordered those nut free cupcakes from once a year ago.
I really don't need these people to be included in my personal happenings or my semi private life.
I really don't.
But if I had a small chat with a total stranger on my trip that I wasn't really interested in - must I follow the rest of their lives too?
Or if a patient of mine made an appointment to my clinic and I saw them once, shall they see my trips and family outings in pictures as well?
Or the doctor I rent space from, should I see how his family life is and creep into his southern vacations?
Or that cool kid I did volunteer work with 3 years ago - should I be following the updates of her by friending her mother?
Do I really need to know my cousin's coworkers or friend's highschool friend or great aunt? Do I really need to know the link to why I may know someone in common with a total stranger?

Why ON earth should you even suggest these people at all FB?

I think what annoys me the most is how FB finds them. How FB links you to these folk and exposes the opportunity to poke into their lives and vice versa.
It sparks uneccessary curiosity into a strangers private life, it also sparks exposure of ones own personal life into the world. And if you fall for this and you look, this can lead to accidentally pressing friend request or accidentally messenger calling them. I've done it and know many who have as well, and have gotten requests from similar.

So much so, there seems to be less personal control over this (despite FB's claims that you do have control over this) other than just simply restricting what we ourselves put onto FB, even though we may want to show/ share only specific others personal info about our lives - we have to be always aware that strangers can somehow have access to this too. I would like to think that I have control over my social exposure and encounters, sharing what I want with some and not others, but on FB I really don't.

Its like trying to have a conversation with a friend in an intimate cafe, and knowing that the person beside you may be listening to your every word. Sure, you "have control" over this - It almost makes you want to just sit in silence with your friend or write notes from across the table. Though in that case FB would still be the person looking over your shoulder to read those notes.

You are annoying me FB, yet again. This like-hate relationship is getting to me.