Thursday, 20 September 2018
positive reminder
90 yr old pt: " a few months ago I set a goal that I would like to live to 100. I feel that if I set that goal and say it, the more likely it is to happen."
He went on to tell me that he told his goal to his dentist. His dentist said that his goal was a good one and that "there are a lot of 65 yr olds who just give up. If they are told they need a crown or a root canal or a filling, they respond with 'Why bother, I'll be dead soon anyways..' ".
This was such an interesting statement by my patient today because this morning I had a 64 yr old pt say to me that she is going to make an appointment to see her family doctor so she can fill out the forms for her to get a Scooter.
At the moment, she is able bodied, a bit over weight, and has some arthritis that is not debilitating (Osteoarthritis not Rhematoid).
I told her that often times I see pts that are able bodied and working to be more healthy, trying to lose weight etc, but feel that they need a scooter to give them that extra help. And as little as two months later I see a drastic decline in their health since they are not walking as much and exercise less. The desire is there but it becomes that much harder to achieve once they get a scooter, which they do not need.
She has been grappling with the idea of getting one because - right now she has coverage (I can go on about how certain systems promote unhealthiness than health), and that she looks at it as preparing for when she possibly cannot walk anymore due to her arthritis....
I suggested to the patient "Why not prepare to be healthy in the future, rather than preparing to be unhealthy."
He went on to tell me that he told his goal to his dentist. His dentist said that his goal was a good one and that "there are a lot of 65 yr olds who just give up. If they are told they need a crown or a root canal or a filling, they respond with 'Why bother, I'll be dead soon anyways..' ".
This was such an interesting statement by my patient today because this morning I had a 64 yr old pt say to me that she is going to make an appointment to see her family doctor so she can fill out the forms for her to get a Scooter.
At the moment, she is able bodied, a bit over weight, and has some arthritis that is not debilitating (Osteoarthritis not Rhematoid).
I told her that often times I see pts that are able bodied and working to be more healthy, trying to lose weight etc, but feel that they need a scooter to give them that extra help. And as little as two months later I see a drastic decline in their health since they are not walking as much and exercise less. The desire is there but it becomes that much harder to achieve once they get a scooter, which they do not need.
She has been grappling with the idea of getting one because - right now she has coverage (I can go on about how certain systems promote unhealthiness than health), and that she looks at it as preparing for when she possibly cannot walk anymore due to her arthritis....
I suggested to the patient "Why not prepare to be healthy in the future, rather than preparing to be unhealthy."
Monday, 10 September 2018
Sportsmanship
noun
- fair and generous behavior or treatment of others, especially in a sports contest."he displayed great sportsmanship in defeat"
I learned a bit about this during my dive back into playing squash a lot lately.
Thankful that I am surrounded by so many examples of this.
Hope to emulate these.
Equality
There’s a difference between:
Equality of outcome
And
Equality of opportunity
One make a person responsible for their own efforts and actions. This gives a person purpose and allows a person to grow. The other does the opposite.
Take a guess which is which.
Wednesday, 5 September 2018
Empathy
Dictionary
em·pa·thy
ˈempəTHē/
noun
- the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
This question has been on my mind lately.
Is it learned? By experience....if you go through the same pain or hurt then you can recognize it in others?
Is it taught? By others telling you how they feel and by you caring about that person and trying to understand emotionally what they are going through?
Why so many questions about empathy?
Well some people simply don't have it.
So much so, I am beginning to think that it is an actual gene people are lacking.
If the hurt/pain is not happening to them, well good luck with the fact that you are dealing with it, not them.
Cases in point:
Someone hurt you. You tell them by expressing your displeasure, or being mad or sad or upset or even simply telling them that they hurt you.
They say "SOOOOORRRRRY then!" like they were forced or coerced into saying something they didn't feel they needed to because they do not believe you. And they are just saying it so that this awkward, uncomfortable feeling you are putting ON THEM will stop.
It is still about them.
No understanding about how the other person feels.
No empathy there.
Or punishment for doing harm to others. When robbers get caught. SORRRYYY and maybe even some tears. But only because they got caught. Not because they have empathy for how they affected other people's lives.
Or expressing how you are bummed that your vacation is ruined by a deadly typhoon while people that live in that area are losing homes or being injured or dying.
I'm seeing a lot of this lately. No empathy, no understanding of other people's feelings.
Very much part of this ever growing ME society.
MY feelings, not your feelings.
Only until people start actually caring about other people than themselves will they have the ability to have empathy.
But yea, whiners, and people who deem themselves helpless but they have full capacity and abilities to help themselves, I have no empathy for....but that's another post.
Elections 2019
What is happening?
I can't..
I just...
Where am I....
When is the next election?!
Cause my butt is sore from sitting by this campfire singing kumbya, wearing flower crowns and breathing in this smoke all day....
Can we start running a country already?!
Where am I....
When is the next election?!
Cause my butt is sore from sitting by this campfire singing kumbya, wearing flower crowns and breathing in this smoke all day....
Can we start running a country already?!
Monday, 3 September 2018
Political Correctness.....
"...I'm standing here with someone who I have differences with, in terms of politics, precisely because I think all this has got to stop. This rage, resentment, hostility, intolerance. Above all, this 'with us or against us' certainty.
The Grand Canyon has opened up in our world, the fistula, the crack grows wider every day. Neither can hear a word that the other shrieks, and nor do they want to. While these armies and propagandists in the country wars clash, down below in the enormous space between the two sides, the people of the world try to get along with their lives, eternally baffled, bored, and betrayed by the horrible noises and explosions all around.
I think it is time for this toxic, binary, zero sum madness to stop before we destroy ourselves.
......
I think one of the greatest human failings, is to prefer to be right, than to be effective. Political Correctness is always obsessed with thinking about how right it is than how effective it might be.
.....
I'm prepared to entertain the opportunity that Political correctness will bring us more tolerance and a better world. But I am not sure.
' One of the painful things of our time, is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision. Let doubt prevail' "
- Stephen Fry
Thursday, 23 August 2018
Feminism..?
Girl power whoo hoo!
Sometimes it baffles me how the achievements already made become so undervalued.
You don't just like a person or support a person just because they are female and it is supposively a female forward way of thinking....
You support them or like them because of the person they are and their values and their achievements, and it is that more amazing when they are women, because of all the obstacles they have faced back then... Back then. (as opposed to obstacles facing women now... accept that we have come pretty far compared to then, do not invalidate those achievements by saying we are still "repressed" like we were back then, we just have STILL a bit more to go, but acknowledge we are not like back then).
Wow. 1979 as Prime Minister of UK.
1979 people!
Just think about it.
I shamefully didn't until now. But more so now, it is ever more important when people are putting value to people who do not exactly have the best character but only just because they are "female". When people are filling "quotas" of gender or nationality, rather than based on qualifications. Equality is not about one aspect of a person, its treating the person on even plane on all aspects and respecting the differences.
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Anyhoot, I will stop blabbering and fill the rest of this post by quotes from the late Margaret Thatcher, that a friend emailed me :
"do you know that one of the greatest problems of our age is that we are governed by people who care more about feelings than they do about thoughts and ideas."
"we want a society where people are free to make choices, to make mistakes, to be generous and compassionate. This is what we mean by a moral society; not a society where the state is responsible for everything, and no one is responsible for the state."
"I think we have gone through a period when too many children and people have been given to understand 'O have a problem, it is the Government's job to cope with it!' or "I have a problem, I will go and get a grant to cope with it!' "I am homeless, the Government must house me!' and so they are casting their problems on society and who is society? There is no such thing! There are individual men and women and there are families and no government can do anything except through the people and people look to themselves first... There is no such thing as a society. There is a living tapestry of men and women and people and the beauty of that tapestry and the quality of our lives will depend upon how much each of us is prepared to take responsibility for ourselves and each of us prepared to turn around and help by our own efforts those who are unfortunate."
Sometimes it baffles me how the achievements already made become so undervalued.
You don't just like a person or support a person just because they are female and it is supposively a female forward way of thinking....
You support them or like them because of the person they are and their values and their achievements, and it is that more amazing when they are women, because of all the obstacles they have faced back then... Back then. (as opposed to obstacles facing women now... accept that we have come pretty far compared to then, do not invalidate those achievements by saying we are still "repressed" like we were back then, we just have STILL a bit more to go, but acknowledge we are not like back then).
Wow. 1979 as Prime Minister of UK.
1979 people!
Just think about it.
I shamefully didn't until now. But more so now, it is ever more important when people are putting value to people who do not exactly have the best character but only just because they are "female". When people are filling "quotas" of gender or nationality, rather than based on qualifications. Equality is not about one aspect of a person, its treating the person on even plane on all aspects and respecting the differences.
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Anyhoot, I will stop blabbering and fill the rest of this post by quotes from the late Margaret Thatcher, that a friend emailed me :
"do you know that one of the greatest problems of our age is that we are governed by people who care more about feelings than they do about thoughts and ideas."
"we want a society where people are free to make choices, to make mistakes, to be generous and compassionate. This is what we mean by a moral society; not a society where the state is responsible for everything, and no one is responsible for the state."
"I think we have gone through a period when too many children and people have been given to understand 'O have a problem, it is the Government's job to cope with it!' or "I have a problem, I will go and get a grant to cope with it!' "I am homeless, the Government must house me!' and so they are casting their problems on society and who is society? There is no such thing! There are individual men and women and there are families and no government can do anything except through the people and people look to themselves first... There is no such thing as a society. There is a living tapestry of men and women and people and the beauty of that tapestry and the quality of our lives will depend upon how much each of us is prepared to take responsibility for ourselves and each of us prepared to turn around and help by our own efforts those who are unfortunate."
D.H Lawrence
Woke up to a few quotes this morning. One of which is from this dude:
"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself."
I have to remind myself of these small birds every now and then.
What petty privileges we have, it seems sometimes, to be human...
"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself."
I have to remind myself of these small birds every now and then.
What petty privileges we have, it seems sometimes, to be human...
Thursday, 16 August 2018
Wednesday, 8 August 2018
Is there a deeper truth behind a purpose?
Who gets angry at someone for how a person's life was saved?
This boggles my mind.
Saving a life or saving their own ego?
Only day 2
So it is only day two back of the short week after the long weekend and holiday Monday.
And I have had a total of 2 pts yell at me.
One, without an appointment and would not clarify why they wanted a walk-in. Two, demanding something that is not under their coverage.
Happy happy Joy Joy.
Ugh. Only two more days left.
The longest week ever!
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On a side note:
When the whole purpose of their movement and advocacy was basically to "save lives", yet they berate and attack the people who actually SAVED the life of someone near death and get mad at them for calling 911, it makes me question which is their priority - saving lives or their own ego? You cannot choose both when someone's life is at risk.
And I have had a total of 2 pts yell at me.
One, without an appointment and would not clarify why they wanted a walk-in. Two, demanding something that is not under their coverage.
Happy happy Joy Joy.
Ugh. Only two more days left.
The longest week ever!
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On a side note:
When the whole purpose of their movement and advocacy was basically to "save lives", yet they berate and attack the people who actually SAVED the life of someone near death and get mad at them for calling 911, it makes me question which is their priority - saving lives or their own ego? You cannot choose both when someone's life is at risk.
Thursday, 2 August 2018
Made in CANADA
yes, exactly what I was thinking.
We have some pretty great stuff,
we should not undervalue what our Country has produced....
http://madeinca.ca/
We have some pretty great stuff,
we should not undervalue what our Country has produced....
http://madeinca.ca/
Wednesday, 1 August 2018
self confidence
Yep something I definitely struggle with.
Especially since I am so aware of trying to not be arrogant instead, which often gets mistaken for confidence.
I came across this random sponsored add on Insta and liked it so much that I stopped the podcast to send it to a friend - then it disappeared.
BUT - I finally found it!
With all the empty advice and hokey "feelings" I see in a lot of coached preaching -
this one, I found genuine, and explained so well. A lot of good bits in here.
Clearing out all the other chaotic thoughts and just
... believing in your capability of achieving something....
... confidence is not a limited amount in the world, there is enough for everyone to have...
These bits stuck in my head.
This was a gem of a random find....
https://thelifecoachschool.com/58/
Especially since I am so aware of trying to not be arrogant instead, which often gets mistaken for confidence.
I came across this random sponsored add on Insta and liked it so much that I stopped the podcast to send it to a friend - then it disappeared.
BUT - I finally found it!
With all the empty advice and hokey "feelings" I see in a lot of coached preaching -
this one, I found genuine, and explained so well. A lot of good bits in here.
Clearing out all the other chaotic thoughts and just
... believing in your capability of achieving something....
... confidence is not a limited amount in the world, there is enough for everyone to have...
These bits stuck in my head.
This was a gem of a random find....
https://thelifecoachschool.com/58/
Ray Lamontagne - Shelter (Amazing Version)
Weird. Did not see this post until now.
Funny how songs can take you to a place so far away and bring up emos so out of context.
Some song writers are amazing. Makes you wonder what their personal lives are like to feel and express such emotion.
Hopefully more truthful and genuine since they own that song...
As opposed to our own real lives ha...
I can only imagine that real love involves the ability to fully allow yourself to give all of yourself to a person, guards and defenses down, and to have that person take all that and be kind and gentle and thoughtful and caring to all that you give them.. and vice versa of course.
Monday, 16 July 2018
Law of Effect
I stumbled upon this term today in some random article in Psychology today.
Are you teaching people to treat you badly?
I find it interesting because I have always heard the "Turn the other cheek" kinda story or the Bible's "give them the other cheek" or the idea that "kindness will overcome unkindness".
Which can really mix people up.
And it can perpetuate a shitty relationship that can in turn eat away at a person's self worth and confidence.
On the other hand, retaliating back against bad behavior can also escalate the bad behavior as well or it can stop it.
This goes along with the discussion my gfs and I had this weekend about meditation and yoga and being detached from the world to find what god means (a common theme in many religions).
One of my gfs refuted an idea that was presented in saying "well then if you let it go or forgive, you end up being just a doormat, how do you stop those people from treating you badly?"
And to mix more ideas into this theme, there is the idea of forgiveness.
Sometimes it is hard to forgive because one feels that to forgive is to excuse the bad behavior or to accept it as ok. Which I learned is apparently the wrong idea about forgiveness.
I have heard that Forgiveness of another person or situation is not for the other person who made the offense, it is something you do for yourself.
All very deep things to think about and all somehow related to each other.
The Law Effect states that Behavior varies as a function of it's consequences.
So if we apply the above strategies of turning the other cheek - if a person can act unkind to another and not be reprimanded and maybe even be treated more kind - they may not change at all and continue to think how they treat someone is ok.
If you look at it that way you can say "oh of course! who would be nicer to someone after they were treated meanly by that person, that is just silly"
BUT it happens.
A person acts up or snaps at another, the other person makes some reason in their head like - oh they must have had a bad day and then they treat them more sweeter to ease them from this bad day.
Or a kid throws a tantrum because they do not get what they want so the parent feels bad the kid is crying and upset so they hug them and console them after.
Anyways, it is interesting to try to decipher when a situation would be good for "turning the other cheek" or actually asserting against the bad behavior/unkindness.
Are you teaching people to treat you badly?
I find it interesting because I have always heard the "Turn the other cheek" kinda story or the Bible's "give them the other cheek" or the idea that "kindness will overcome unkindness".
Which can really mix people up.
And it can perpetuate a shitty relationship that can in turn eat away at a person's self worth and confidence.
On the other hand, retaliating back against bad behavior can also escalate the bad behavior as well or it can stop it.
This goes along with the discussion my gfs and I had this weekend about meditation and yoga and being detached from the world to find what god means (a common theme in many religions).
One of my gfs refuted an idea that was presented in saying "well then if you let it go or forgive, you end up being just a doormat, how do you stop those people from treating you badly?"
And to mix more ideas into this theme, there is the idea of forgiveness.
Sometimes it is hard to forgive because one feels that to forgive is to excuse the bad behavior or to accept it as ok. Which I learned is apparently the wrong idea about forgiveness.
I have heard that Forgiveness of another person or situation is not for the other person who made the offense, it is something you do for yourself.
All very deep things to think about and all somehow related to each other.
The Law Effect states that Behavior varies as a function of it's consequences.
So if we apply the above strategies of turning the other cheek - if a person can act unkind to another and not be reprimanded and maybe even be treated more kind - they may not change at all and continue to think how they treat someone is ok.
If you look at it that way you can say "oh of course! who would be nicer to someone after they were treated meanly by that person, that is just silly"
BUT it happens.
A person acts up or snaps at another, the other person makes some reason in their head like - oh they must have had a bad day and then they treat them more sweeter to ease them from this bad day.
Or a kid throws a tantrum because they do not get what they want so the parent feels bad the kid is crying and upset so they hug them and console them after.
Anyways, it is interesting to try to decipher when a situation would be good for "turning the other cheek" or actually asserting against the bad behavior/unkindness.
Wednesday, 27 June 2018
Maxi dress....
So I like following extra Petite Jean because she is practically the same size as me - especially in height (I do not think I am as thin as her) - and because for the most part I like her style.
Though at the moment she is prego and soon due, she still suggests clothes that are versatile for being prego and not.
For a while now I have been looking for a maxi dress. Preferred floral print but I will take anything that fits right now. So I ordered online a dress she was wearing (though she had the cutest yellow - I love yellow, but it was sold out) during her Italy trip. I got the rust red instead.
It arrived today and I have been walking around my place for a good 30 minutes in this dress because it just about fits! (so unusual not to have to hem or alter it somehow)
I've decided that I like it!
But something was bugging me. I was not too sure about the colour and was thinking about it until something just popped into my head and now I cannot shake it.
Red , flowey, long dress........
Gah!
Just gimme a white bonnet and I may as well be one of those handmaids!
great. Now I cannot get rid of this image as I wear it. And what a coincidence that the show is filmed in T.O.
Ugh. Hope no one else thinks it when they see me....
Though at the moment she is prego and soon due, she still suggests clothes that are versatile for being prego and not.
For a while now I have been looking for a maxi dress. Preferred floral print but I will take anything that fits right now. So I ordered online a dress she was wearing (though she had the cutest yellow - I love yellow, but it was sold out) during her Italy trip. I got the rust red instead.
It arrived today and I have been walking around my place for a good 30 minutes in this dress because it just about fits! (so unusual not to have to hem or alter it somehow)
I've decided that I like it!
But something was bugging me. I was not too sure about the colour and was thinking about it until something just popped into my head and now I cannot shake it.
Red , flowey, long dress........
Gah!
Just gimme a white bonnet and I may as well be one of those handmaids!
great. Now I cannot get rid of this image as I wear it. And what a coincidence that the show is filmed in T.O.
Ugh. Hope no one else thinks it when they see me....
Wednesday, 20 June 2018
In France the other day...
President Macron's response to a teenager who called him 'Manu'
was to correct him and say he should call him Mr. President and he went on to tell the boy that before he starts a revolution he must learn to "do things the right way... first earn a diploma and learn how to put food on the table."
I find this amusing in many ways. One, because his statement rings true for me. But also because I am pretty sure the kid was just trying to be cool with the prez, but I also think that the prez is dealing with a lot of issues, and a feeling of disrespect is one of them, that he just felt he needed to set things straight and voice his built up opinion. Too bad for this innocent kid who had to be the example that the prez had to set straight in front of everyone. But of course I think the media is making it more dramatic than it was, and I doubt the boy was that humiliated. Though with all the idiocy of media hype, I am also pretty sure the kid possibly now is persuaded to think against the president, rather than listening to his realistic advice. C'est la vie!
BTW, has anyone noticed that the president's name is soooo similar to the delicious french treat Macaron? That to me is just awesome..yum!
was to correct him and say he should call him Mr. President and he went on to tell the boy that before he starts a revolution he must learn to "do things the right way... first earn a diploma and learn how to put food on the table."
I find this amusing in many ways. One, because his statement rings true for me. But also because I am pretty sure the kid was just trying to be cool with the prez, but I also think that the prez is dealing with a lot of issues, and a feeling of disrespect is one of them, that he just felt he needed to set things straight and voice his built up opinion. Too bad for this innocent kid who had to be the example that the prez had to set straight in front of everyone. But of course I think the media is making it more dramatic than it was, and I doubt the boy was that humiliated. Though with all the idiocy of media hype, I am also pretty sure the kid possibly now is persuaded to think against the president, rather than listening to his realistic advice. C'est la vie!
BTW, has anyone noticed that the president's name is soooo similar to the delicious french treat Macaron? That to me is just awesome..yum!
Thursday, 7 June 2018
Tuesday, 29 May 2018
Crazy D's Prebiotic Soda
Soda!
Pop soda is usually filled with sugar and unnecessary junk that makes it taste good and stimulates the body's natural addiction to sugar.
When I heard of this soda and tried it at the Buy Good Feel Good expo a few weeks back, I thought that it was great!
I do not know much about prebiotics, but I guess they are fibres that clean your gut to allow probiotics to flourish. And I heard about probiotics and good flora for gut and over all health.
In addition, this soda claims to have a natural sweetener, that does not increase the glycemic index too much.
Tasty and good for you?! Really?
Anyhow, maybe I can make this my go to indulgence every now and then when I crave pop or instead of my favorite Orange San Pellegrino pop.
Canadian too, check it out!
Pop soda is usually filled with sugar and unnecessary junk that makes it taste good and stimulates the body's natural addiction to sugar.
When I heard of this soda and tried it at the Buy Good Feel Good expo a few weeks back, I thought that it was great!
I do not know much about prebiotics, but I guess they are fibres that clean your gut to allow probiotics to flourish. And I heard about probiotics and good flora for gut and over all health.
In addition, this soda claims to have a natural sweetener, that does not increase the glycemic index too much.
Tasty and good for you?! Really?
Anyhow, maybe I can make this my go to indulgence every now and then when I crave pop or instead of my favorite Orange San Pellegrino pop.
Canadian too, check it out!
updates cont...
So second thought I wanted to post:
2.
There was a pretty interesting MUNK debate on Political correctness going too far.
What I found interesting is that I had such a strong opinion going in, but hearing the people debate and hearing both sides and trying to understand the message from each, my opinion was not swayed, but instead, it gave me a better understanding of the other side - other than just simply thinking they are nuts!
Another thing I noted was how wonderfully articulate and intelligent they all were - or at least seemed to be. Research and knowledge is key to back up arguments.
Anyhoot what stuck with me is this distinction:
The difference between equality of opportunity vs equality of outcome. (41:22 mark on the youtube vid )
There were more points I found interesting such as defining persons as a collective group rather than an individual and the focus on names (which can start off as benign then become offensive not because of the word itself but in the manner it starts to be used or ideas assumed behind it) and whether certain term distinctions are being inclusive, exclusive or just going too far.
This debate I found fascinating because I feel - most humankind is striving for the same goal - to live in peace and harmony (unless they feel threatened or they have a power ego), but the approaches are categorized as either left or right which seems to divide people even more. If we had more intellectual debates around these topics, especially at the tables of decision makers, then I feel that peace is reachable. But most of the time this is not discussed this way and who ever is in power decides without a full balance of all opinions.
2.
There was a pretty interesting MUNK debate on Political correctness going too far.
What I found interesting is that I had such a strong opinion going in, but hearing the people debate and hearing both sides and trying to understand the message from each, my opinion was not swayed, but instead, it gave me a better understanding of the other side - other than just simply thinking they are nuts!
Another thing I noted was how wonderfully articulate and intelligent they all were - or at least seemed to be. Research and knowledge is key to back up arguments.
Anyhoot what stuck with me is this distinction:
The difference between equality of opportunity vs equality of outcome. (41:22 mark on the youtube vid )
There were more points I found interesting such as defining persons as a collective group rather than an individual and the focus on names (which can start off as benign then become offensive not because of the word itself but in the manner it starts to be used or ideas assumed behind it) and whether certain term distinctions are being inclusive, exclusive or just going too far.
This debate I found fascinating because I feel - most humankind is striving for the same goal - to live in peace and harmony (unless they feel threatened or they have a power ego), but the approaches are categorized as either left or right which seems to divide people even more. If we had more intellectual debates around these topics, especially at the tables of decision makers, then I feel that peace is reachable. But most of the time this is not discussed this way and who ever is in power decides without a full balance of all opinions.
Updates
Well this medium is quite archaic. But I'm just too lazy to switch over to anything else.
Been wanting to post a couple thoughts but did not get the chance to. Lets get to it...
1. I hate politics. I've never really been interested in that stuff .... but I will admit, I was forced to get into it once I started working for a couple years. Working hard, then seeing a chunk of dough never quite get to you because thats the government's take.... the price of living in our wonderful country and province. Which is great. But yea, definitely pay more attention to where that part goes now.
One part of politics which I despise is the insincerity of it all. The elections are coming up and promises are being spewed, but it is a given that those are there just to get your vote. And the attacks on personality and the attacks on the competing parties. It gets nasty, when they should just focus on their platforms instead of smear campaigns. Once in, they can do whatever they want. And the diversions to appease the masses. Blind masses. Or "Sheeple" as my older bro says. Policies or decisions being made which seem to "aid" or what I call bandaid a problem, but in the end it benefits someone else, other than the intended.
I liken politicians to car sales men/women. The bottom line is their own commission.
I was thinking of this last week mostly because I experienced part of this political diversion last week and I could not stand it. Mind you when I say politics, it can stem to any level, even very close within your colleagues and working institutions.
I was the lead in a teleconference meeting with an association last week. We had less than 30 minutes to get our question out. We had briefed each other the day before and had about 3 questions to be asked in order. I believe the people with whom we met were expecting something from us. Because once I asked the first question, the answer I got back was soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo long winded. Bordering on stalling for time, filling in space, overpowering the conversation and a huge attempt at diverting the direction of the conversation into a huge arm tangent.
wtf.
What happened to simple concise answers? Just answer the question. gez.
The conversation ended up to be an hour long, with other important players leaving the conversation due to another meeting, and several interruptions on my part to get the conversation back on track so that we can get to our main question, and because of this parties on both sides bordered on a tone of antagonist and defensive.
joy.
As I said, I hate the insincerity of Politics.
Been wanting to post a couple thoughts but did not get the chance to. Lets get to it...
1. I hate politics. I've never really been interested in that stuff .... but I will admit, I was forced to get into it once I started working for a couple years. Working hard, then seeing a chunk of dough never quite get to you because thats the government's take.... the price of living in our wonderful country and province. Which is great. But yea, definitely pay more attention to where that part goes now.
One part of politics which I despise is the insincerity of it all. The elections are coming up and promises are being spewed, but it is a given that those are there just to get your vote. And the attacks on personality and the attacks on the competing parties. It gets nasty, when they should just focus on their platforms instead of smear campaigns. Once in, they can do whatever they want. And the diversions to appease the masses. Blind masses. Or "Sheeple" as my older bro says. Policies or decisions being made which seem to "aid" or what I call bandaid a problem, but in the end it benefits someone else, other than the intended.
I liken politicians to car sales men/women. The bottom line is their own commission.
I was thinking of this last week mostly because I experienced part of this political diversion last week and I could not stand it. Mind you when I say politics, it can stem to any level, even very close within your colleagues and working institutions.
I was the lead in a teleconference meeting with an association last week. We had less than 30 minutes to get our question out. We had briefed each other the day before and had about 3 questions to be asked in order. I believe the people with whom we met were expecting something from us. Because once I asked the first question, the answer I got back was soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo long winded. Bordering on stalling for time, filling in space, overpowering the conversation and a huge attempt at diverting the direction of the conversation into a huge arm tangent.
wtf.
What happened to simple concise answers? Just answer the question. gez.
The conversation ended up to be an hour long, with other important players leaving the conversation due to another meeting, and several interruptions on my part to get the conversation back on track so that we can get to our main question, and because of this parties on both sides bordered on a tone of antagonist and defensive.
joy.
As I said, I hate the insincerity of Politics.
Wednesday, 16 May 2018
Wedding Bells!
Who's excited for the Royal Wedding?!
ME!!!!!
...And probably only me.
So saturday morning I plan on wearing a dress and my facinator and drinking tea and eating crumpets to watch the wedding.... all by my lonesome.....
Haha. Just kidding. I don't have a facinator.
I may even sleep in.
But still, for some reason I am excited. Those darn fairy-tale-crap stuff sucking me in, they got me.
I still remember watching princess Di get married long ago. And I even thought during Prince Andrew's wedding that he was quite handsome (duno what I was thinking then, weird childhood crush I guess, along with superman).
And Kate and William's wedding. Awwwww, they do seem sweet to each other. Who knows.
Not a big fan of the womanizing past of Harry or the whiney emo Rachel on Suits. But I'm still excited and happy for them. Wishing them the bestest!
ME!!!!!
...And probably only me.
So saturday morning I plan on wearing a dress and my facinator and drinking tea and eating crumpets to watch the wedding.... all by my lonesome.....
Haha. Just kidding. I don't have a facinator.
I may even sleep in.
But still, for some reason I am excited. Those darn fairy-tale-crap stuff sucking me in, they got me.
I still remember watching princess Di get married long ago. And I even thought during Prince Andrew's wedding that he was quite handsome (duno what I was thinking then, weird childhood crush I guess, along with superman).
And Kate and William's wedding. Awwwww, they do seem sweet to each other. Who knows.
Not a big fan of the womanizing past of Harry or the whiney emo Rachel on Suits. But I'm still excited and happy for them. Wishing them the bestest!
Thursday, 10 May 2018
K beauty stuff
So Korean beauty products are all the rage now. Probably because most Korean ladies seem to have amazing skin.
I have a feeling it is not so much what they put on their face but because of all the Kimchi they eat.
As it is, fermented foods are also all the rage for good gut health. Kimchi, Kefir, Kombucha, Saurkraut...
Anyhow, I can't wait to try this:
I think they are row-boating this thing to me from Korea.... It is taking forever to get to me!!
I have a feeling it is not so much what they put on their face but because of all the Kimchi they eat.
As it is, fermented foods are also all the rage for good gut health. Kimchi, Kefir, Kombucha, Saurkraut...
Anyhow, I can't wait to try this:
I think they are row-boating this thing to me from Korea.... It is taking forever to get to me!!
Thursday, 26 April 2018
numbers
I try to skirt around political issues on here and keep it light enough. But I went to some political casual debate last night.
Pretty loud since hockey and baskeball was on as well. (yay raps)
And the provincial elections are coming up fast.
So I decided to look up random info from the true and factual Wiki.. (I jest).
At first glance the dept is forever increasing. Wow, I cannot even conceive of owning a billion dollars or even a million....It looks like every gov has increased the debt, it is hard to deduce anything from this other than that right.
I really do not see us getting out of debt any time soon or ever but lets do some calculations, shall we?
Now I have to fish back on how to calculate % increases but here I go for the year term the amount given:
NDP : increased debt by 159%
PC: 46%
Lib: 102%
Now I understand they only picked these specific one year terms, they could have chosen a different one year term for each party and we may see a different picture.
But as you know... Wiki never lies... haha
But this is just by the info that was given.
Pretty loud since hockey and baskeball was on as well. (yay raps)
And the provincial elections are coming up fast.
So I decided to look up random info from the true and factual Wiki.. (I jest).
History[edit]
The government of Ontario's debt has risen under all governments since 1989.
During the 1990s recession, the Ontario New Democratic Party (NDP) government of Premier Bob Rae increased the total debt from $35.4 billion in 1989-1990 to $90.7 billion in 1994-1995.
The Progressive Conservative government of Premier Mike Harris increased the debt from $90.7 billion in 1994-1995 to $132.6 billion in 2002-2003, even while cutting services and downloading formerly provincially-run services onto the municipalities.[8] In the 1999-2000 budget, the Mike Harris government paid $3.1 billion towards the total deficit by selling the rights to the government-owned Highway 407/ETR in the form of 99-year lease to a private consortium.
The Liberal government of Premier Dalton McGuinty, in part due to the Great Recession, increased spending on social and energy programs and uploaded services from the municipalities, doubling the total debt from $132.6 billion in 2002-2003 to $268.0 billion in 2013-2014.[9]
At first glance the dept is forever increasing. Wow, I cannot even conceive of owning a billion dollars or even a million....It looks like every gov has increased the debt, it is hard to deduce anything from this other than that right.
I really do not see us getting out of debt any time soon or ever but lets do some calculations, shall we?
Now I have to fish back on how to calculate % increases but here I go for the year term the amount given:
NDP : increased debt by 159%
PC: 46%
Lib: 102%
Now I understand they only picked these specific one year terms, they could have chosen a different one year term for each party and we may see a different picture.
But as you know... Wiki never lies... haha
But this is just by the info that was given.
Monday, 16 April 2018
Wednesday, 28 March 2018
Health
“If you think that the pursuit of health is expensive and time consuming, try illness.”
- Lee Swanson
(Via reshapelive on Instagram)
- it’s interesting, especially in Canada, where there is this misconception that “everything should be covered” or “I am entitled to...” - especially when it comes to Healthcare - that people find it acceptable to place the responsibility of their own health on others rather themselves.
Tuesday, 27 March 2018
Natural-ish
So I found out about this Toronto based place from a lady I follow on Instagram and Facebook , the ibsacademy. She has a lot of interesting natural health tips.
What drew me to this place was that I have been wondering about what my antiperspirant does to my hormones and lymph glands. I heard about blockages of pores and glands and imalance of hormones etc. So I have been looking for a more natural antiperspirant- you know- for them squash days. But all I found were natural deodorants. And that salt crystal thing didn’t work.
Apparently this “natural ingredient”-made deodorant has some moisture absorbing properties from a small amount of clay.
Well sounds nice, I shall give it a try.
Wish I wasn’t in this recovering state so I can get back to my beloved squash and really test this out.
Thursday, 22 March 2018
Friday, 16 March 2018
Only until
Only until you are sick or injured and cannot do the things you used to do, then you realize how much more out of life you could be living even when you were not injured or sick.
Living the most out of life and taking things for granted - this becomes so much more clearer !
Wednesday, 28 February 2018
Infantalize
yes, another word I wish was in my Jossepidia files.
Among the whole #metoo movement, I forget which female (I think it was Condoleeza Rice) it was that warned to be careful not to infantilize women during this movement. Meaning baby them or make them out to be more helpless than the actual injustices do.
Along with this movement there is a deeper resurgence of the #girlpower movement.
A lot of companies are jumping on this bandwagon. In good ways and some... well I question the sincerity of.
Cases in point:
Girl Doritos
and
Jane Walker
Kudos to the companies being more aware of having more of a female representation in their companies and hopefully paying at par as well.
But changing the brand to make it more "female friendly" seemsa bit very condescending and patronizing.
These have not been brands that said Men only or not for women. Even if they were implied at some point (never for Doritos) in the ice ages, they aren't now. Similar to GOLF (though that name's origin actually forbade women from playing and squash and hockey. All used to be mostly or only for men but has been slowly taken over so all sexes can enjoy.
Here's the thing with this new "for women too branding": Women actually already eat doritos and drink whisky. We will regardless of "girlying" it up. In fact, girlying it up makes the separation of the sexes more distinct and yes, infantilizes women.
So if your company has some insincere motive to jump on the #metoo movement just for their own profit rather than actually supporting equality - here's more news - I see right through it. Don't do it if you don't mean it.
Insincerity is one of my huge pet peeves!!
https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/super-bowl-doritos-girl-ali-768676
Among the whole #metoo movement, I forget which female (I think it was Condoleeza Rice) it was that warned to be careful not to infantilize women during this movement. Meaning baby them or make them out to be more helpless than the actual injustices do.
Along with this movement there is a deeper resurgence of the #girlpower movement.
A lot of companies are jumping on this bandwagon. In good ways and some... well I question the sincerity of.
Cases in point:
Girl Doritos
and
Jane Walker
Kudos to the companies being more aware of having more of a female representation in their companies and hopefully paying at par as well.
But changing the brand to make it more "female friendly" seems
These have not been brands that said Men only or not for women. Even if they were implied at some point (never for Doritos) in the ice ages, they aren't now. Similar to GOLF (though that name's origin actually forbade women from playing and squash and hockey. All used to be mostly or only for men but has been slowly taken over so all sexes can enjoy.
Here's the thing with this new "for women too branding": Women actually already eat doritos and drink whisky. We will regardless of "girlying" it up. In fact, girlying it up makes the separation of the sexes more distinct and yes, infantilizes women.
So if your company has some insincere motive to jump on the #metoo movement just for their own profit rather than actually supporting equality - here's more news - I see right through it. Don't do it if you don't mean it.
Insincerity is one of my huge pet peeves!!
https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/super-bowl-doritos-girl-ali-768676
hug-punch
If someone goes in for a hug and you are sitting down..
DO NOT stand up as they do this.
Or you may give them a hard shoulder punch to the face!
Ops. Poor thing. Sorry!
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In follow up to my last post. Great Olympics from the little I saw and despite the death threats and team-made shunning. Good Job to the USA gals hockey for defeating my beloved Canadian Reigning Champions. (Boo though for us losing). I watched the beginning of the game and could tell they were in for a hard one. And as much as I do not like watching skating because it seems so subjective ... Tessa and Scott - not only a gold metal beautiful, sexy skate between them, but gosh, the way she looks at him, and how they are together... I was swept away!
DO NOT stand up as they do this.
Or you may give them a hard shoulder punch to the face!
Ops. Poor thing. Sorry!
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In follow up to my last post. Great Olympics from the little I saw and despite the death threats and team-made shunning. Good Job to the USA gals hockey for defeating my beloved Canadian Reigning Champions. (Boo though for us losing). I watched the beginning of the game and could tell they were in for a hard one. And as much as I do not like watching skating because it seems so subjective ... Tessa and Scott - not only a gold metal beautiful, sexy skate between them, but gosh, the way she looks at him, and how they are together... I was swept away!
Thursday, 15 February 2018
The only time I am really excited for hockey...
Is during the Winter Olympics.
Fights eliminated makes things so much more enjoyable!!!
EEEEEE!
Who's excited for Canadian Women's (and Men's) Olympic Hockey ?!
This gal is!
Fights eliminated makes things so much more enjoyable!!!
EEEEEE!
Who's excited for Canadian Women's (and Men's) Olympic Hockey ?!
This gal is!
Monday, 12 February 2018
Well Peter Rabbit (movie 2018) you out did yourself.
How wonderful all this controversy is bringing more attention to your movie.
I will admit, I did not watch it.
What bothers me most is the same ignorance that I have talked about before when it comes to kids with Food allergies.
And specifically anaphylactic food allergies.
For the stupid - that means that the allergic reaction that occurs is severe, often causing a swelling of the throat, and the kid cannot breathe, then dies.
The kid Dies.
For the even more stupid out there that means DEATH.
So to all the fuck-tards that are saying "its just a kids movie, its just an animated (ie. not real) movie, or that it is just a bunch of bunnies... get over it, grow up, you are being overly sensitive...."
You can all fuck the hell off!
Its obvious you cannot change stupid.
Until you have a son or a daughter or a niece or nephew that you love very much, who has to be careful of things they eat or has to be constantly aware of the food they put into their mouths at restaurants or in the school cafeteria or when even sharing snacks with friends or birthday parties, or when they go to relatives houses and worrying about them when they leave the house or go off on their own on school trips .... because they can simply die by just having that food accidentally, then having the additional kids who either make fun of them or who roll their eyes or who have ignorant parents like you who call this a burden to their kid.... then you will understand. Or heck, maybe you are that self centred and selfish you still would not care. So go on thinking it is no big deal.
I will admit, I did not watch it.
What bothers me most is the same ignorance that I have talked about before when it comes to kids with Food allergies.
And specifically anaphylactic food allergies.
For the stupid - that means that the allergic reaction that occurs is severe, often causing a swelling of the throat, and the kid cannot breathe, then dies.
The kid Dies.
For the even more stupid out there that means DEATH.
So to all the fuck-tards that are saying "its just a kids movie, its just an animated (ie. not real) movie, or that it is just a bunch of bunnies... get over it, grow up, you are being overly sensitive...."
You can all fuck the hell off!
Its obvious you cannot change stupid.
Until you have a son or a daughter or a niece or nephew that you love very much, who has to be careful of things they eat or has to be constantly aware of the food they put into their mouths at restaurants or in the school cafeteria or when even sharing snacks with friends or birthday parties, or when they go to relatives houses and worrying about them when they leave the house or go off on their own on school trips .... because they can simply die by just having that food accidentally, then having the additional kids who either make fun of them or who roll their eyes or who have ignorant parents like you who call this a burden to their kid.... then you will understand. Or heck, maybe you are that self centred and selfish you still would not care. So go on thinking it is no big deal.
Monday, 5 February 2018
Thinking into Results - B. Proctor
"God's gift to us is more talent than we'll ever hope to use in our lifetime.
Our gift to God is to develop as much of that talent and ability as we can in this lifetime."
- Steve Bow
Our gift to God is to develop as much of that talent and ability as we can in this lifetime."
- Steve Bow
Wednesday, 31 January 2018
Poverty, Inc. | Official Trailer
I hardly post anything on FB. But I really liked this documentary. I'll post it again here. It articulates a lot of what I have been trying to say for a long while....This message can even be extrapolated into all things that we do for others, right down to a personal level... Giving vs Teaching in that saying about a hungry man and fish...
That wonderful feeling of .."YES! you guys get me!" (or I get them)
Monday, 29 January 2018
Asteism
Another new word for me, dammit, not in my Jossipedia files once again.....
I had a patient come in to my clinic on Friday. I was trying to figure him out from the start. A bit of annoyance that I was 10 minutes late to getting him into his apt (due to the patient before him needing more time); a bit of arrogance or false sense of "whatever I don't care for the details" kind of attitude, impatience, then as I talked to him more he became more willing to listen to my advice and became a bit more calm. Regardless.... during the small talk in between he said:
" Oh I thought you would be French. Your name is French you know"
And the one comment that bugged me sometime after he left, and still now, was:
"So both your parents are Filipino? That is interesting. I thought that maybe you would be some sort of mix. I hope I am not insulting you when I say this (clue that he is fully aware that it will be an insult) but you do not look like you are filipino. You are pretty. I would not have guessed that you are filipino."
All I said in response was "Gez I hope you are not insulting me.." not taking a stance either way....
You know those times you want to kick yourself for things you think you should have done way after the fact? I should have set him straight and called him out on this. Insulting a whole entire culture and one that I belong to. He needs to see his stereotype or whatever ideas he has of it are wrong, and that is an insult more than any compliment he ignorantly thought he was giving.
Anyhow definition of Asteism :
Correspondingly, a backhanded (or left-handed)compliment, or asteism, is an insult that is disguised as, or accompanied by, a compliment, especially in situations where the belittling or condescension is intentional. Examples of backhanded complimentsinclude: "I did not expect you to ace that exam.
I had a patient come in to my clinic on Friday. I was trying to figure him out from the start. A bit of annoyance that I was 10 minutes late to getting him into his apt (due to the patient before him needing more time); a bit of arrogance or false sense of "whatever I don't care for the details" kind of attitude, impatience, then as I talked to him more he became more willing to listen to my advice and became a bit more calm. Regardless.... during the small talk in between he said:
" Oh I thought you would be French. Your name is French you know"
And the one comment that bugged me sometime after he left, and still now, was:
"So both your parents are Filipino? That is interesting. I thought that maybe you would be some sort of mix. I hope I am not insulting you when I say this (clue that he is fully aware that it will be an insult) but you do not look like you are filipino. You are pretty. I would not have guessed that you are filipino."
All I said in response was "Gez I hope you are not insulting me.." not taking a stance either way....
You know those times you want to kick yourself for things you think you should have done way after the fact? I should have set him straight and called him out on this. Insulting a whole entire culture and one that I belong to. He needs to see his stereotype or whatever ideas he has of it are wrong, and that is an insult more than any compliment he ignorantly thought he was giving.
Anyhow definition of Asteism :
Correspondingly, a backhanded (or left-handed)compliment, or asteism, is an insult that is disguised as, or accompanied by, a compliment, especially in situations where the belittling or condescension is intentional. Examples of backhanded complimentsinclude: "I did not expect you to ace that exam.
teetotalism
A new word for me. But something I wish was in my Jossipedia files...
Teetotalism is the practice or promotion of complete personal abstinence from alcoholic beverages. A person who practices (and possibly advocates) teetotalism is called a teetotaler (plural teetotalers) or is simply said to be teetotal.
Teetotalism is the practice or promotion of complete personal abstinence from alcoholic beverages. A person who practices (and possibly advocates) teetotalism is called a teetotaler (plural teetotalers) or is simply said to be teetotal.
I am not your door mat
“I am not your door mat” - the Buddhist notion of idiot compassion.
This randomly popped up on my computer screen this morning. The source is elephantjournal.com .
I have no idea how this got on my screen but I find it interestingly true.
I’ve been there before. The lines of helping someone or being kind/ forgiving to an unkind person in hopes that your generosity and understanding will miraculously change them or inspire them vs. Being a door mat or not standing up for yourself and enabling the other persons poor behaviour, and allowing this form of abuse to happen to you- the lines can suddenly become blurred.
I believe it comes down to self esteem/ confidence and true love of yourself. That, I have not mastered. But being aware of having this first as being important before anything else is something I’ve realized....
Monday, 22 January 2018
Do it now....
Ever have one of those days where you feel like you are failing at life?
I wish there was a handbook for this.
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Aside from that.....
Today I was asked something about my dad.
I had no idea what the answer was, something about his past and how he arrived in this country. I knew the big details but not the exact little ones.
I thought meh, so what.
But I was told in a gentle way, to maybe ask those things of my dad, you know, while he is still here to tell me them.
ugh. That thought. The thought I cannot accept. The mortality of those you love. Despite me not showing it much and taking them for granted. The people we are blessed with in this life are not ours to keep. They will not always be there no matter how much we fight it. And when they are gone, what will you remember of them? You know, to still keep them with you somehow. Can you look back and say you really knew them, no matter how close you think you are to them.
I don't know what the fucking meaning of life is. I actually don't know most of the time why the fuck I was put on this earth (case in point my intro to this post-kinda-day). But I do feel that if you don't have deeper connections with people around you, find your purpose and Listen (which I have been known not to do), and take the time to know people and do all the things we want to do with those we care and love, and jump into what excites/ interests us, then really what's the point? I feel what is left is to meander the earth not ever being grounded to it and those in it, not leaving a mark or an impression and just going through the highs and lows on autopilot never hitting a mark or destination - it would all seem actually pointless. Like a movie that doesn't make sense (ie. Open House on Netflix) and suddenly you are left with the fact that you lost an hour and a half of your precious time.
I went out with someone once, who I liked and they liked me too. They made plans. But I was hesitant to, since - you know of my cautious glass half empty. And then it ended abruptly. The worst thing is to have things end abruptly. A meal. A conversation. A movie. A life. A relationship. But somehow, there came a second chance. And you know what I did that time? Made a full list of all the things we wanted to do. Visit this place, eat this meal, take this drive, watch this movie, visit this store, make a snowman, go skating. I said we had one day to do all of this in case it ends again. And that day I was pretty thankful for. I remember even looking into the starry night sky saying thank you for this moment (The rest after that day, not so much. But that day I was thankful for, for sure.)
Anyhow, I am thankful for the gentle advice.
My dad came here after finishing a work visa contract In the states. He did not want to go back home and decided to come up north to Canada instead. His sister was here and she had a friend working in a hospital in Windsor. He was offered a position in the hospital. But after visiting the town, he did not even show up for the first day he was scheduled to work! Very not like his responsible self. But he said the town was soooo boring he could not stand it, too lonely. hahaha! (no offence to Windsor, though this was in the late 60's). So he continued to apply to other places closer to the bigger cities. And finally ended up with another work visa in the place where he met my mom....
Do all you want to do now, ask all you want to know now, soak up every bit of everyone you hold dear, and as I said a few posts ago about my almond croissant, do not save the best for last, eat it now.
I wish there was a handbook for this.
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Aside from that.....
Today I was asked something about my dad.
I had no idea what the answer was, something about his past and how he arrived in this country. I knew the big details but not the exact little ones.
I thought meh, so what.
But I was told in a gentle way, to maybe ask those things of my dad, you know, while he is still here to tell me them.
ugh. That thought. The thought I cannot accept. The mortality of those you love. Despite me not showing it much and taking them for granted. The people we are blessed with in this life are not ours to keep. They will not always be there no matter how much we fight it. And when they are gone, what will you remember of them? You know, to still keep them with you somehow. Can you look back and say you really knew them, no matter how close you think you are to them.
I don't know what the fucking meaning of life is. I actually don't know most of the time why the fuck I was put on this earth (case in point my intro to this post-kinda-day). But I do feel that if you don't have deeper connections with people around you, find your purpose and Listen (which I have been known not to do), and take the time to know people and do all the things we want to do with those we care and love, and jump into what excites/ interests us, then really what's the point? I feel what is left is to meander the earth not ever being grounded to it and those in it, not leaving a mark or an impression and just going through the highs and lows on autopilot never hitting a mark or destination - it would all seem actually pointless. Like a movie that doesn't make sense (ie. Open House on Netflix) and suddenly you are left with the fact that you lost an hour and a half of your precious time.
I went out with someone once, who I liked and they liked me too. They made plans. But I was hesitant to, since - you know of my cautious glass half empty. And then it ended abruptly. The worst thing is to have things end abruptly. A meal. A conversation. A movie. A life. A relationship. But somehow, there came a second chance. And you know what I did that time? Made a full list of all the things we wanted to do. Visit this place, eat this meal, take this drive, watch this movie, visit this store, make a snowman, go skating. I said we had one day to do all of this in case it ends again. And that day I was pretty thankful for. I remember even looking into the starry night sky saying thank you for this moment (The rest after that day, not so much. But that day I was thankful for, for sure.)
Anyhow, I am thankful for the gentle advice.
My dad came here after finishing a work visa contract In the states. He did not want to go back home and decided to come up north to Canada instead. His sister was here and she had a friend working in a hospital in Windsor. He was offered a position in the hospital. But after visiting the town, he did not even show up for the first day he was scheduled to work! Very not like his responsible self. But he said the town was soooo boring he could not stand it, too lonely. hahaha! (no offence to Windsor, though this was in the late 60's). So he continued to apply to other places closer to the bigger cities. And finally ended up with another work visa in the place where he met my mom....
Do all you want to do now, ask all you want to know now, soak up every bit of everyone you hold dear, and as I said a few posts ago about my almond croissant, do not save the best for last, eat it now.
Thursday, 18 January 2018
Saturday, 13 January 2018
I like squash...
I really really like squash.
Not the vegetable.
After the league games we tend to get together with the other team for drinks and snacks. Some of these ladies are pretty cool. So many different backgrounds and personalities, but we have this one thing in common.
The other night one of the retired ladies was talking about how she had a few car accidents of detached tractor trailers hitting her car! And also having an elevator cable snap while she was in it. Talk about bad luck! Injuries and huge setbacks. Before the accidents she used to be stressed and caught up in the success of her career, having newly graduated and moving up in the ranks. She was so stressed and worried all the time. After the accidents she said she learned to calm down. And to be very appreciative of every moment she has. Also, she said after the accident she was afraid to drive again, she had her bf at the time and her family drive her to places she needed to go. One day they collectively bought her a gift. It was race car driving lessons!!
It was great to hear this story of a part of her life. Sometimes things that you wish never happened or huge obstacles or setbacks can turn out to be blessings in disguise. Life changes for the better.
Anyhow, back to squash. I really really like it. More so lately due to this welcoming and fun environment.
Not the vegetable.
After the league games we tend to get together with the other team for drinks and snacks. Some of these ladies are pretty cool. So many different backgrounds and personalities, but we have this one thing in common.
The other night one of the retired ladies was talking about how she had a few car accidents of detached tractor trailers hitting her car! And also having an elevator cable snap while she was in it. Talk about bad luck! Injuries and huge setbacks. Before the accidents she used to be stressed and caught up in the success of her career, having newly graduated and moving up in the ranks. She was so stressed and worried all the time. After the accidents she said she learned to calm down. And to be very appreciative of every moment she has. Also, she said after the accident she was afraid to drive again, she had her bf at the time and her family drive her to places she needed to go. One day they collectively bought her a gift. It was race car driving lessons!!
It was great to hear this story of a part of her life. Sometimes things that you wish never happened or huge obstacles or setbacks can turn out to be blessings in disguise. Life changes for the better.
Anyhow, back to squash. I really really like it. More so lately due to this welcoming and fun environment.