Such a heart breaking though lovely story.
I used to write about love and all that jazz but since I dont really have one in my life I stopped and just made this blog to be something light.
However, I need to write about this Patient of mine.
Him and his wife would always come together to their appointments with me.
She had a slight disability in walking and a very sensitive foot.
He would always help her and make sure she was ok. He would help her up on the chair and take her shoes and socks off and put them back on. One time he was busy making their next appointment at the desk and I realized that she had no problem putting her shoes and socks on herself.
To be frank, but in a respectful way, I found her to be quite the complainer at first. It was frustrating trying to help her but she felt very sensitive, and I actually doubted the actual sensitivity she was feeling. Almost a "poor me" sort of attitude... but not extreme.
But as the years went by, they grew on me. Sweet couple and I really liked talking about their home country (Italy) since I love that place so much.
Last year, at the end of summer, she passed away suddenly.
The look on his face the next appointment he had solo was heart breaking.
Not only was he sad and devestated as expected, he seemed lost.
He spent almost his whole life taking care of his wife. He said that they were always together since they got married.
Only one time he was away for work in their home country for several months, which was hard on his wife since she is naturally a very nervous lady. She told him never to leave her again for that long. He often said that he asked his wife if she was scared or nervous and she always answered, "as long as you are beside me, I feel safe."
Today he told me about how they met.
It wasnt arranged like he said often happened back then in his time.
He was 16 at the time. It was in a town he was just stopping by to visit with a friend. They were in a store to have an item of clothing made. She walked by the door. And he immediately commented to his friend that she looked like a nice girl.
Two years later he visited the same store and she was there again, that time he tried to talk to her and called to her, but she quickly went away, suspicious as to what he wanted.
After a year of living in another town he went back to look for her..... and so the courtship began.
He wanted to talk to her and go out with her but she kept saying she was too busy. Until she told him that she was looking for a place to have her money exchanged.
He obliged and she let him change it for her.
Today he told me in hindsight people have told her, how dangerous and risky it was to give a total stranger money to exchange. But my patient said but he knew her, she said "I did that cause I trust you, and I knew, the first time I saw you that I loved you."
wow.
Life is short, Love hard where there is love to be had.
